Dating a widower with a daughter
Develop a relationship with the late wife's family. They may already be receiving professional help, but they may also be resentful of you so, whatever you do, don't get angry when you hear "You're not my mother".
This won't work in every situation, but some of the Garter Brides felt it was helpful to reach out to the late wife's family. Make sure they're invited to family events like the kids' birthdays, graduations, communions, confirmations, etc. It goes with the territory and remember, you're the grown-up.
A woman with whom a WSF falls in love and commits can rest assured that her partner has already seen the worst and the most difficult that life can dish out. It may have been sudden or he may have witnessed cancer or other illness slowly deprive his best friend and partner of her future. When his teenage daughter needs feminine products, Dad drives to the local CVS or Shop Rite, ignores the smirks from the insolent checker, and defiantly puts the box Tampax on the counter. Often, the first things the WSF reduces in order to provide for his children are his interests. Regardless of whether or not the marriage to his late wife was perfect, he very likely knows his way around relationship issues ranging from communication to love-making.
Given that, how big a deal will it be when you run over the mailbox or forget to pay the cable bill? If you’re looking for a man to be a good father for your children now or in the future, well, you very likely found him..
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